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When pregnant women complain about being pregnant.
"I'm so nauseous" or "I'm so tired". Well, so am I- nauseous and tired from listening to you whine about a completely preventable situation. No one forced you to get knocked up.
— GVC from NM | Health | 4.16.2009 | Comments (22)
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I can't imagine anything more complaint-worthy than having a foreign parasite inside of you, sucking you of your energy, nutrients, making you sick, tired, fat, causing you unbearable pain and a stretched out vagina upon removal, and then continuing to leach from you for the rest of your life. What do you have to complain about GVC? Besides initials that remind me of a second rate health food store?
— Hairnette posted 4/16/2009
Hairnette: I know you'll tirade me for this, but isn't that what s/he's talking about? Unless you're a Somali rape victim, s/he's got a point....
— Bronxy posted 4/16/2009
Um, not to point out the glaringly obvious, but such feelings can be avoided with two words: birth control. Because, you see, NOBODY MADE YOU DO THIS. Those who choose to be moms should accept the responsibility without making their kids (or anyone who will listen) feel like crap for existing. It's fine to mention that you're feeling morning sick or your boobs or feet hurt or whatever -- hell, I'll rub your feet and get you a ginger ale -- but going on and on about how terrible your post-pregnancy/post-kids life is just makes me think you lack the judgment to make responsible decisions and will probably be a terrible parent. In an overpopulated world where we'll likely see water wars in our lifetime, we can't afford to have parents who don't want to be parents and won't do a good job when they are. I've met the kids of parents like these, and they all hate themselves. What kind of person would do that to an innocent life they were responsible for creating?
— Diana posted 4/16/2009
Ah, the old "STFU up and deal with it. You made your choice!" an excellent response to women in all manner of situations!
— jmc posted 4/16/2009
Not so much STFU, but deal with it? Definitely. Taking personal responsibility for huge decisions that will affect people other than yourself is something I expect of all humans, regardless of genitalia.
— Diana posted 4/16/2009
Wow, this is insanely offensive and inherently sexist. a), sometimes birth control fails. So does this mean if a woman plans to not enjoy being pregnant, she should expect to either have an abortion or remain abstinent for her entire life while men can have sex whenever the hell they please? And b), it's entirely possible for someone to want to procreate without absolutely enjoying the immense physical pain involved, something that men who want to procreate don't have to worry about.
— Hannah posted 4/16/2009
Biology is definitely sexist and unfair in this case, I never said that women should love the pain of childbearing (that would be insane). Birth control fails, but emergency contraception works, and yes, there's also abortion. And adoption for those who don't believe in it. My only point is that if childbearing and child rearing makes you into a toxic, guilt-peddling jerk, as I have seen it do to some women, then the humane thing to do is not raise a kid in this environment. (And, to be clear, I have equal contempt for men who reject their pregnant partners sexually or chastise them for being fat or pull the "I just don't see you the same way so now I don't find you sexually attractive" thing once their partners are also moms.)
— Diana posted 4/16/2009
The specific example this peeve made me think of was a person who said to me "I hate kids, the idea of pregnancy disgusts me, and I find the idea of parenting awful, but my fiance wants kids and I told him I'd have one if it meant I never had to work again." This is a women who deserves wayyy more than sore feet. Nice, responsible moms-to-be are *welcome* to tell me their backs hurt or whatever else -- I respect the fact they are doing an incredibly hard thing.
— Diana posted 4/16/2009
I'm pregnant right now, not showing yet, and a girl who is as far along as I am is bitching all day long at work. The best part is that she keeps telling me, "Someday you'll understand." I can't wait to make her feel sheepish when I tell everyone that we're due a week apart and I haven't done any kind of whining.
— I agree! posted 4/16/2009
Diana -- Reasonable women can have ambivalent feelings about bringing a child into the world. Unless you've been pregnant, I don't think you can comment on how physically uncomfortable the process of pregnancy is. Moreover, very few intelligent and successful women would have children if a prerequisite for having them required that they be 100% thrilled with all the physical and emotional sacrifices that come along with it. And it's better to talk about the problems than to take it out on the fetus. Pregnant people tend to be asked how they're feeling more than non-pregnant people do. And thus given more opportunity to complain.
— Stinko posted 4/16/2009
Bronxy: I won't tirade you. I just imagine that being pregnant is probably so different from not being pregnant that the pregnant person is constantly surprised by their loss of control over their own body. It's probably hard to distract yourself from it. And add to that the anxiety that most people would feel about the end result, in my eyes, there's no reason to suppress it.
— Hairnette posted 4/16/2009
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— Rob posted 4/16/2009
I'm 38 weeks pregnant and I have loved every minute of it. Ok maybe the 1st 3 months I was a little on edge, but you know, I planned this pregnancy and every little curve expected or not, it was my choice, and there is no reason to complain about it. I agree w/Diana pregnancy except in very rare cases is totally preventable, and once it happens it's not worth complaining about. Women who do spend their time pissing and moaning about the "discomfort" should have thought about that b4 spreading their legs. They need to realize it's not all about them anymore.
— Cat posted 4/21/2009
Being pregnant can be a scary sometimes. Complaining a little about it is a way to fish for encouragement and/or recognition of the fact that you're doing a very difficult thing. That's all. It doesn't mean that you're not happy and excited to be pregnant, or that you're going to be a horrible mother. I don't know, but when I ask a woman how her birth went, and she shyly starts telling me about how she went into convulsions during her emergency C-section after being in labor for 12 hours, that makes me not mind listening to some pregnant woman with sore feet complain for 30 seconds.
— Carmen posted 4/25/2009
When I was pregnant of my first one, I felt that I hard a hard time. I was sick and bloated, retaining water, full of aches and pains. In short, I really did not like being pregnant. Now, I'm pregnant of my second one, I am much more sick, tired, pain, headaches, and I wjould like to say that I hate being pregnant. But at the same time, I feel spoiled for complaining. There are many people out there wishing to be me, to be pregnant, to be blessed with a healthy baby, and would not mind a few inconveniences. So, I try not to complain to much. But how is anyone going to know and understand that I can't stand on my legs for an hour without fainting, that I don't want to come for dinner, because I'm likely to vomit at the table, or that I really cannot be the driver on a 40-hour drive, because I will fall asleep and kill us all!! How will they know?
— Suzanne posted 5/18/2009
I am pregnant and I feel like crap. My partner doesn't mind hearing me complain in fact he feels very bad for me, but he is the only one that I complain to
— posted 6/9/2009
if i could do the pregnancy for my girlfreind i would to shut her up and show her it cant be that bad
— simon posted 6/16/2009
holy hell if i knew it would be this annoying i would of got a vesectmie when i was 14. all i here is bitch nag moan. i love her but damn i wanna be happy also.
— tommy posted 4/17/2010
@tommy: Gestate a human being inside your body for 9 months, then you can tell a pregnant woman how "annoying" her "bitch nag moan" is getting. Every time men have the tiniest of physical complaints, they act like they are going to die. It's utterly hilarious. If men were the sex to be pregnant, it would be a whole new world.
— Sidney posted 4/21/2010
I hate to hear a pregnant woman complain because there are women in this world, myself included that can’t conceive a child. It kills me to think that I may never experience carrying a child or raising a new born. Pregnant women should be grateful for being blessed with a child and be mindful that others are not as fortunate and would give anything to take their place.
— posted 6/17/2010
GVC and his compatriots are idiots. You got here because someone went through exactly the kind of discomfort that you're complaining about "hearing about" right now. As someone who tried for years to conceive and is finally pregnant, I DON'T walk around complaining about it, only because it seems like looking a gift horse in the mouth. But if you had the kind of pain and discomfort that I--and most other pregnant women have--from the constant puking to the feet so swollen you can't put any pressure on them to the rash that covers your entire body to the hemorrhoids to the leg cramps that make it impossible to sleep, you'd be complaining every second of your miserable day... Just be grateful that someone went through that for you and STFU.
— Camille posted 8/16/2010
if you have a kitten is it okay to be pregnant ?
— kylie posted 8/25/2010
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