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"I'm sorry if you feel that way." - and any variation of said phrase.

Another good one: "I'm sorry if I made you feel bad." Grrrrrrrrr. Nononono. Don't apologize for how I feel. Don't "apologize" if you think I'm reacting inappropriately to something you said or did. It's incredibly immature. If you truly are sorry for something, say it. Say, "I'm sorry I said that" or whatever the occasion calls for. Simple, straightforward, honest.

— mybossisanidiot from greenville | Conversation | 10.30.2008 | Comments (5)

but what if they feel you are being totally irrational and just want to make you go away without having to admit wrongdoing? you can tell im a great friend, right?

— personaldecay posted 10/30/2008

This is tough too. My boyfriend has totally over reacted to stuff I've said, things he's projected into things he's thought I said. I don't want to apologize because I didn't say anything wrong, but it seems like you gotta say something!! But I understand if someone's just being a dick.

— Molly posted 10/30/2008

would you rather "I'm sorry you're a nutbag and totally overreacted and made everyone around you feel akward?"

— tmoney posted 10/30/2008

I think this one depends on the context of the situation... It seems like some people say that because they genuinely care about the fact that it sucks to be hurt or angry regardless of what happened. Other people say it as a way of introducing their argument as to why they are right - "Well, I'm sorry that you feel that way, but..." (said with snarky attitude).

— Colleen posted 8/16/2009

Or, in the case of my MIL, it's a way of saying, "It's your fault you got hurt by my insensitive, thoughtless actions, not mine." It's a cop out for not taking responsibility for one's bad behaviour.

— Yorkie posted 9/8/2009

When people make you take your shoes off before entering their house/apartment. » I guess it makes more sense in the winter/spring, when people have on shoes that have been in mud, snow, slush, etc. It does make the place easier to clean, but it is annoying to me (as the guest) because now MY socks are covered in hair/skin cells/general place filthiness. So the peeve goes both ways. – KimK 3/21

Constant belly-rubbing by pregnant ladies » When you're used to being SKINNY, and all of a sudden you have this HUGE belly.... it's kind of hard to keep your hands away from it. Not to mention, I seem to hit my belly against things (since I'm not used to having it) and keeping my hands there, reminds me to pay attention to it. – Jami 3/20

When people make you take your shoes off before entering their house/apartment. » i think for me it's just family/cultural practice. my dad's from guam, and that whole side of the family doesn't think twice before taking off shoes at the door. – whothegoods 3/17

I hate it when people stick their Bluetooth headsets in their ears and walk around when they're not using them. It just looks really, really stupid. » They startle me in public too, when they suddenly start talking LOUDLY to themselves...while they are alone...in the middle of the supermarket. I think "crazy, or Bluetooth?" – Ami 3/17

I hate it when people stick their Bluetooth headsets in their ears and walk around when they're not using them. It just looks really, really stupid. » I call that look "business douche". 50% human, 50% robot, 100% asshole. – Brandi 3/16

When people make you take your shoes off before entering their house/apartment. » I have to side with the poster on this one. I think if you have guests over, you should just deal. It's not an every day thing. – jmc 3/15

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